Daughters Who Carry the Decision

Giving voice to women who carried the end-of-life decision to withdraw life support from their mothers

Currently seeking participants for a confidential doctoral research study.

The study explores the experiences of midlife women who were involved in the decision to withdraw life support from their mothers after a sudden, unexpected illness or injury.

If this resonates with your experience, please click below to check whether the study may be relevant to you.

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Why this research matters

Many women carry a story that lives quietly in the background of their lives.

A story of being called to the hospital.
Hearing words no one is ready to hear.
Being the one the doctors look to,
and the family turns to —
to listen, to interpret,
to communicate, to decide.

This is not only grief.

It is also responsibility, shock, uncertainty, love, family history, and the weight of having to act when a mother can no longer speak for herself.

Yet these experiences often remain unnamed and unacknowledged. End-of-life decision-making is widely discussed in medical and ethical terms, but daughters’ lived experiences of withdrawing life support from their mothers remain under-recognised and under-researched.

While many people — including sons, partners, siblings, and other family members — may be involved in end-of-life decisions, this study focuses specifically on daughters and the mother-daughter relationship. The hope is that giving careful attention to this one relationship may also encourage wider recognition and future research into other family experiences.

This study aims to give voice to these experiences and to better understand the meanings that emerge in the months and years afterwards.

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Giving voice to experiences often carried quietly, unnamed, and unacknowledged.

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Giving voice to experiences often carried quietly, unnamed, and unacknowledged.

Who can take part?

You may be able to take part in the study if:

you are a cisgender woman living in the UK or US

you were aged 40-65 at the time of your mother's illness or injury

your mother’s illness or injury was sudden and unexpected

your mother was unable to make medical decisions for herself

you were involved in the decision to withdraw life support (or other life-sustaining treatment) from your mother

your mother died between 1 and 15 years ago

you feel able to talk about the experience in a research interview

Not sure whether your experience fits?
Please get in touch with any questions.

What taking part involves

Taking part in the study involves four steps: a brief conversation, information, screening & consent, and a confidential interview. Confidentiality and care are assured throughout the process.

  • Chat

    A short conversation to answer your questions & check whether your experience meets the study criteria.

  • Information

    You will receive the Participant Information Sheet, which outlines the full details of the study.

  • Screening & Consent

    Complete a brief screening questionnaire and written consent form before the interview is confirmed.

  • Interview

    A confidential 60–90 minute interview conducted at a pace that feels comfortable for you.

Confidentiality & Ethics

Participation in the study is voluntary, confidential, and handled with care. Your name and identifying details will not be used. Interview material will be anonymised and stored safely.

You may withdraw from the study without giving a reason until data analysis begins, which is typically two weeks after your interview.

This study has received ethical approval from Middlesex University and the New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling.

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Frequently Asked Questions

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Expression of interest

If this study resonates with your experience and you would like to participate, please get in touch.

Submitting an expression of interest does not mean you have agreed to take part in the study. It simply starts the process so I can send you the Participant Information Sheet and answer any questions you may have.

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Know someone this may be relevant to?

This research relies on reaching women whose experiences may be complex, sensitive, and often carried quietly.

You are welcome to share this page with someone who may be interested in taking part.

Further reading

Carrying the decision

A hidden experience in end-of-life care

An introductory article about carrying the decision to withdraw life support for someone who can no longer speak for themselves.

The article invites us to consider how this decision is lived and carried as a deeply human experience.

Understanding this can help us better support those who live with it.